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Avoid the trap of defending yourself. Photo courtesy of Canva This is How You Usually Argue With a Narcissist You usually argue with a narcissist like this.  One of you brings up a topic that you need to have a discussion about.  Let’s say, you bring up how you would love it if the narcissist […]

You’ll struggle in the beginning, but pretty soon, you’ll get the hang of it. Photo courtesy of Canva If you grew up not knowing how to practice self-care, put yourself first, or create healthy boundaries, then learning these things is like learning a new language.  You’ll struggle at first, as you learn what the definition

People pleasers and co-dependents struggle with this part. Photo courtesy of Canva You’ve tried to set a boundary with this person, truly, you have.  They just don’t listen!  Is there someone in your life that continually crosses your boundaries?  Perhaps you never had a boundary, or just gave up trying to set them when it

This client wasn’t sure where to start. Photo courtesy of Canva I was reminding my client, *Sharon, that a boundary is like a fence with a gate.  You control what is inside your fence (yourself), and everything else is someone else’s responsibility.  She was worried that setting a boundary with her grown children would keep

You have the power to define what is safe or unsafe for you. Photo courtesy of Canva What is a Boundary? Everyone seems to be talking about boundaries on social media, but what the heck is a boundary?  According to Cloud and Townsend, in their book, Boundaries, a boundary defines where you end and someone

These are rules you have to protect your mental, emotional, and physical health. Photo courtesy of Canva The Misconception About Boundaries Clients and readers often comment that boundaries don’t work with toxic or narcissistic people.  They are right, in a way.  Boundaries don’t keep toxic people from trying to overstep them.  They will push the

From narcissistic bosses, to friends, to family members and romantic partners, I’ve dealt with them all. Narcissism I learned about narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) in my master’s in counseling program.  We studied the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5-TR) as part of our course study.  I had to learn what NPD was, and

A tool for healing from trauma and narcissistic abuse. Photo Courtesy of Canva The Effect of Color on the Brain I was speaking to my oldest daughter a few months ago about my business brand colors.  She had just started her own marketing company, and we were discussing what she could do to help me

How relationships with narcissists and toxic people make you lose yourself. Photo courtesy of Canva No One Listened To You No one listened to you as a kid.  That’s one possible reason why you forgot what you like. Or, maybe your childhood was idyllic, but no one listened to you as an adult at work,

Photo courtesy of Canva We Isolate When We’re Stressed One of the things we do when we’re stressed, that can sometimes be a good strategy, but can also contribute to our sadness over time, is isolating ourselves from the love and support of others.  There is a time and a place for being on your